This is a stellar example of why we’re friends.

I was gchatting with Caitlin this morning (*coughyesIreallydohavemorethanonefriendIswearcough*) while composing an email to another friend (See? Told you.), and our conversation went a little something like this:

Me: A friend asked me to elaborate on some brief comments I made the other day about my reaction to his artwork, and I’m having a difficult time articulating what I felt.  It was more of a visceral reaction than a complete thought.

Caitlin: Say, “Your work makes me feel,” and attach a picture of a wedding dress.

Me: Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!

Caitlin: “As a girl, I only have two feelings: ‘:(‘ and ‘wedding dress’.  This makes me feel the latter.”

My god, I love that girl.

I especially love how this wedding dress has Hello Kitty on it, thus enhancing its inherent contextual comedic value.

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Final thought of the evening.

Your actions speak louder than your words, my dear.

Bayu and Ixchel actually take flight; I, on the other hand, just feel high.

If it were possible to high-five a period of time, I would have been high-fiving today like every couple of hours.  Great job, Today!  You’re awesome, Today!  Hey, Wednesday, November 10, 2010, you’re a real champ!

Et cetera.

So here’s what happened:

1) Bayu, my male Eclectus who has previously only flown when terrified, desperate, or both, decided this morning that flying was actually a pretty cool way to get around the house on his own.  He flew into the living room to hang out with me for a while, then, when he got bored, he flew back into the bedroom and back to his cage.  Like it was no big deal.  Like he’d been doing it for years.  His landings?  Immaculate.  Whereas his terror-flights always resulted in clumsy- or downright crash-landings, I think he’s been watching Cah’ya and Yodit carefully and learning how to land from their example, because it was beautiful to watch him put his little feet out, throw his tail up, and make a soft, clean landing onto my chair back.  Attaboy, Bayu!

I like to take full credit for his newfound confidence, because after almost three years of living with the boy, it finally dawned on me that what he really needed to help build his confidence and give him a sense of agency was free roam.  I opened his cage door a few days ago and have left it open ever since.  Normally, I don’t recommend letting birds just out to wander at will, as it exposes them to many more dangers then if they’re only out of their cages under supervision.  But in his case, my room is bird-proofed (heck, it’s practically a bird room with a human bed shoved in one corner), and he is so scared of the other birds that out-of-cage time when the others are out isn’t really very fun for him.  So I figured: let the boy decide, in peace, sans other birds, when and whether he wants to come out of his cage.  Let him go down onto the ground and forage around in the bird food and supplies if he wants to.  Let him have free access to the playgyms, window, bed, etc., when the other birds aren’t out to bully him.  Empower him to make his own decisions, to freely explore his environment, and wander without fear of repercussions.  And wouldn’t you know it?  Today he starts flying.  Yeah, it took me almost three years to figure it out, but hey!  At least I figured it out!  At least it’s working!  At least his quality of life is finally, finally improving.

2) Ixchel also decided to fly today.  She’s been doing great flapping exercises ever since I got her, but today when we were doing our flapping she actually lifted up out of my hand.  She couldn’t sustain lift, though, so I’d have to leapfrog my hands one in front of the other to catch her keel each time she took off, then sank, then took off, then sank.  So finally, she was getting enough lift that I thought she could make the short trip to the sofa.  I extended the hand that she was cradled in and gently tossed her towards the sofa.  Beautiful arc, beautiful landing.  She laughed softly as she landed.  I praised her like crazy, then we tried it again, a foot farther from the sofa than last time.  Again, she made it, and again, she laughed.  We tried it again, a foot farther away, and again: landing, laughter.  The fourth time, I was all the way on the other side of the living room, I extended my hand, but I didn’t even have to toss her.  She knew what was coming and started flapping her wings, then took off on her own, without my help, and landed beautifully on the sofa.  After that, there was no stopping her.  She tried to turn mid-flight a few times and head towards the other birds’ cages, but couldn’t quite  make it all the way.  She’d either land on the floor or I would catch her.  Regardless, every time her flight would end, she would laugh.  Which made me laugh.  Which made Cah’ya laugh.  There was a lot of laughter in my house this morning.

So yay!  Ixchel can fly!  Now that she’s fledging I can start taking her places with me to get her properly socialized and introduce her to the world around us.  If anyone wants to be a part of that socialization process, by all means, let me know.  I need volunteers.

3) Wednesdays are always as least partially awesome because it’s the day that I pick up our weekly veggies from our Springdale Farm CSA.

It has quickly become a treasured weekly tradition for me.  I love going to pick up the bags and chatting with Paula and Jennifer.  I love taking our bag to Nick’s house, finding out what treats and goodies they’ve included for the week, and divvying them up between the two of us.  And most of all, I love taking my portion of the goods home and figuring out what I can do with them!  I have discovered so many new recipes and experienced so many new flavors since joining this CSA, because there’s always at least one thing in the bag that I’ve never cooked with before.  This week, for instance, it’s fennel.  Never cooked with it before.  But I’m definitely going to enjoy doing something tasty with it tomorrow!

4) But also, Nick had a special treat for me when I got to his house today: he gave me a copy of his brand new book, which came out just this week!

I haven’t had a chance to read all of it yet, but so far it’s simply breathtaking.  I highly recommend it to everyone, ever, but particularly to artists and people who are interested in becoming artists.  I’m super inspired to continue work on my own book(s)–especially after reading his chapter on “Cultivating the Proper Mindset”.   That resonated with me so much because it’s what I want and need to do; I’ve just… failed at it, due to various distractions.  *coughIxchelandthisblogforexamplecough*  But!  Tomorrow is a new day, with no mistakes in it!

5) That devastating discovery I made a couple of days ago isn’t so devastating anymore, mostly because I have had some time to learn more about it.  And yes, as I suspected, it is ultimately going to lead to healing some brokenness in me that has been there for years and years.  So…you take the bad with the good and recognize that oftentimes the bad is necessary to help lead us to the good.

And again, I repeat: tomorrow is a new day, with no mistakes in it!

(Just give me about 12 hours to fuck it up proper!)

Minds In Morpheus: Not really a dream, but…

Minds In Morpheus: Not really a dream, but….

It’s a bird! It’s a plane! It’s a shitstorm with silver lining!

Today something truly delightful happened, almost immediately followed by a devastating discovery, which was then followed by the realization that this devastating discovery could, in fact, provide both the answer and the solution to a profound and vexing problem I’ve had my entire adult life.  That, or it’s really, really bad news bears.  Or it could be both.  I don’t know yet.

The internet had this:

and this:

to say about today’s events.  Sage advice, Internet.  I will heed your words well.

Life lessons

This is another one that I sent to Caitlin and then decided it was again too humiliating/hilarious not to share.  And yes, I realize that of the whopping four blog entries I’ve done so far, I’ve mentioned Caitlin twice and literally no one else even once, making it appear that I only have one friend.  Mmm, I’m just getting more and more attractive every day, aren’t I, world?

“I just read your blog entry.  Funny thing: that almost happened to me this morning.  Ok, I do yoga in my underwear.  I also feed Ixchel in my underwear, because she always makes a big mess and slings formula everywhere, and it’s easier to clean formula splatters off skin than clothing.  And then, because I’ve already been walking around in my underwear doing yoga and feeding Ixchel, I go ahead and feed the rest of the birds in my underwear, too.  ‘Cos why the hell not?  I live alone.  So before giving them fresh water, I dump the birds’ old water into my hanging plants that are out on my front porch.  If I didn’t do that, they’d otherwise never get watered.

So this morning, the birds were all out of their cages, I was in my underwear, and I took a couple of old water bowls out to the porch to water the plants (I should clarify here that my front yard is fully enclosed in a privacy fence, so it’s not like I’m flashing the neighbors).  I shut the door behind me so that none of the birds would fly out the door.  The problem is that my door knob has a little button on it that, if it’s pressed in, locks the door automatically.  So I went out, watered the plants, and then when I turned to walk back in, realized that the knob was locked.  FUCK.  I was envisioning myself running down S_____ in my underwear screaming at the top of my lungs: “BFF NEEDS PHONE!  BFF NEEDS LOCKSMITH!”  And then getting arrested and sent to the State Hospital for apparent mental illness.  Fortunately for me, I have a flare for the dramatic, as you well know, so I half-jokingly threw myself against the front door crying, “Nooooo!”  As it turns out, I hadn’t shut the door all the way, so the bolt hadn’t completely engaged.  My weight was enough to push it back open.  Talk about a stroke of luck.  I mean, for the good citizens of Austin who happened to be on S_____ this morning, more so than for me.  Poor people would have had PTSD if they witnessed me running down the street in my undies.
Lesson learned: always get dressed before taking the birds’ water out to the plants.  I would say, “Always make sure you have your keys with you before you walk outside,” but I think you and I both know that’s a bit of an unrealistic expectation!”

Baby Love

This evening, when I got home from having worked all day at a clinic after only three hours of sleep last night, I laid down on the futon for a quick nap before moving forward with my to-do list.  Ixchel’s box was on the floor at the end of the futon closest to my head, and when she saw me lie down so close to her she scrambled over to my side of her box, cried out in the softly pleading way that baby caws do, and tried climbing/flapping out of the box towards me.   I extended a finger towards her beak, which she hooked onto and used as leverage to hoist her clumsy, crippled little body over the box’s side.  I caught her keel in my hand and brought her towards me.  She couldn’t wait for my slow movements to complete the journey; with an awkward jump and a mighty flap of her wings, she launched herself at my shoulder, burying her face in the crook of my neck and nestling her body in the “u” made by my shoulder and arm.  We slept cuddled up like that for a little over an hour.

When we woke up I held her over her box to potty and then she immediately wanted to come back to the futon.  This time I set her next to me on the futon.  With a determined squawk, she set about the daunting task of climbing up onto my back.  With contorted legs, ungainly wings, and a determined beak, she writhed and struggled and eventually flopped and scooted onto my back.  Once there, she again fought against the deformity of her legs and somehow managed to pull herself up to the highest point of my back: the scapula.  I thought that was her end-goal: to hang out on the tallest possible point.  But once she reached my shoulder blade, she folded her wings and did a slow-motion dive towards my face.  She landed with a rocking motion, kind of like a penguin sliding off an ice floe, then pressed her right cheek firmly against my left cheek, tucked her toes against my clavicle, and stretched her right wing over my neck and head in a gloriously sweet baby caw hug.

In that moment, all the tenderness and affection and love that I feel towards any animal in my care expanded and deepened and intensified, and Ixchel joined ranks with Cassia, Charlie, and Cah’ya.  Don’t get me wrong: I love all the animals with whom I’ve had the privilege of sharing a trans-species community, but some transcend friend and companion.   Some have a special place in heart and life.  Oh, little crippled Ixchel, how I love you so.

She goes into surgery next week.  She’ll be 12 weeks old.  Charlie had his first surgery at 12 weeks old, too.  May the medical similarities end there.

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